

Do you still remember that hottie who stole your boyfriend or girlfriend way back when? Now that the years have eased the pain, have you ever wondered what went on in their mind when they knowingly went after someone who was – until that moment – undeniably yours?
People enter into affairs for all sorts of reasons, none of them good: They’re infatuated with someone; they’re bored with their own relationships; they don’t take their vows (spoken or otherwise) seriously… But what are they actually thinking when they step from just-thinking-about-doing-it to actually doing it? Is there guilt? Do they care that they may be not just breaking up a relationship, but in all likelihood destroying a family as well?
Hurtful practices
One woman said that she had a habit of entering into relationships with married men that never went anywhere and only succeeded in making her feel worthless and the wife feel betrayed. It wasn’t until a friend pointed out that her careless – and, in fact, ruthless – behavior had its roots in her childhood that her eyes were opened to what she’d done. Her mother died when she was eight and her father remarried a cold woman who didn’t even bother to pretend that she cared about her. She grew up resenting her stepmother and when the opportunity to “get back” at her arrived later on in the form of married men, she jumped at the chance. She was disappointed to realize that she’d been hurting all the wrong women just to spite the one that had done her wrong.
Messy circumstances
Self-devaluation
Such behavior only serves to feed into one’s sense of self in the worst way: Initially, the woman may feel powerful and desirable. But over time, a sense of self-loathing may develop as they realize that they’re not the “chosen” one – merely the one standing in the wings. Ask any of these Jezebels what they were thinking and they’re likely to tell you they weren’t thinking at all. They were just going with the moment and regretting later. Not to belittle the married one’s responsibility in the whole business (much – maybe most – of the guilt would lie on their shoulders), but the other woman is often unknowingly reducing her value to nothing.
What goes around…
Love is not meant to be a destructive thing. Lust, on the other hand, often interferes with love’s intentions. And that’s what happens when someone wanders where they shouldn’t. Your spiritual self, your “satnam” (higher self), will benefit from monogamous love relationships based on devotion and respect. Follow that path and you’ll feel truly blessed.