Over the course of a lifetime, people have to find ways to cope with grief. People grieve in different ways and over different things. Some mourn the past or the money they once had. These things pale in comparison to the loss of a loved one.
When we lose someone we love, be it a child, spouse or even a pet it seems like we will never find joy again. The loss of a loved one changes your life forever. This kind of loss can wound your soul causing some people spend years of their lives mourning those who they have lost. This causes grief to become a way of life. This kind of grief can stop a positive flow of life force.
When this flow of positive energy stops, it is easy to get stuck in a place where you seem to be incapable of feeling happiness.
It’s impossible to stop grieving in an instant and just as many people grieve over different things, they grieve in different ways. It is hard for people around the grieving survivor because they see the change in the person and they want to help heal the loss.
The grief lessens when the person starts healing. It isn’t wrong or unfeeling to want to recover; it is only human to grow and feel better.
A complicated grief happens where the mourning doesn’t fade and instead evolves into a sensation of heightened pain. This pain manifests itself when one focuses on the pain and sorrow of loss rather than gratitude for knowing the loved one. Focusing only on the death of the person and forming and extreme attachment to the belongings of the loved one leads to a persistent longing and even denial of the death.
This can keep the survivor from enjoying life.
The first step to moving on is to believe that you can be healed. Recognizing that you have a constant need for the one you have lost is a step towards healing. Instead of following your instinct to isolate yourself, reach out to friends or family.
If you continue to feel this grief is becoming a danger, consult a doctor or a grief support group.
If you are feeling suicidal, call a suicide hotline number. In the United States, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) where you can reach trained and helpful counselors.
Do not be afraid to express your feelings. You may need help to process these feelings. You can express your feelings in a variety of ways. You can talk to someone, or draw or write in a journal.
Feelings need to be expressed in a healthy way so that the grief can be let go so they can begin to heal. This can lead to growth as an individual especially if you give yourself time to go through this challenge.