Everyone experiences a moment in their lives where there’s some much self doubt, self pity and feeling lost at certain times. However, if you consistently lack confidence in your ability to make good decisions, if you look to others to make decisions for you, and if you make their opinions matter more than your own, then it’s time to overcome self-doubt, regain self-confidence and start trusting yourself again.
Here are nine ways to do it. After all, who knows more about what’s best for you than you? No one!
1. Don’t Overthink Things
Being decisive feels good because there’s no going over the what-ifs or the thousands of possibilities surrounding a certain subject. Think about where all those thoughts stem from, and then realize they’re only distracting you from the actual situation.
2. Make a Decision and Stick to It
Avoid explaining your situation to others and also stop asking their opinion. Save yourself time, anxiousness and confusion, and just make a decision on your own. If it turns out that you were wrong, own it and try something else. You’re never going to be perfectly right all the time—we all make mistakes. But what if you’re right? Then you just avoided a whole lot of nonsense and even better, you made a good decision without doubting yourself. Bravo.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
You’re a different person with your own needs, desires and priorities. You can admire someone without comparing your accomplishments to theirs. Your life is a unique story, so how about just loving who you are?
4. Remember the Good Decisions You’ve Already Made
You have probably already made plenty of good decisions in your life thus far. If you’re full of self-doubt now, remind yourself of those good decisions you’ve already made. You probably weren’t so full of self-doubt then.
5. Make Confidence a Behavior
According to Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, people who feel down about themselves or lack self-confidence don’t just feel that way, they “…actively maintain these painful experiences and self-perceptions through the ways that [they] think.” The good news is that you’ve taught yourself to think this way, so you can also teach yourself to choose confident behavior instead. You can then eliminate self-doubt and replace it with self-confidence.
6. Build Confidence Like You Build Muscle
There’s no overnight fix to overcoming self-doubt. Just as you might go to the gym every day to build body muscles, eliminating self-doubt will become easier over time with the help of some reinforcement.
7. Clear Your Mind
If you get caught up on the Ferris wheel of what-ifs and negative self-talk, do something to clear your head. Take a walk around the block or meditate. Time away devoted to self-care will give you the answers you need, help you make decisions and devise your action plan.
8. Get on With Your Day
Once you’ve made your choice, don’t leave time to second guess yourself. Get on with your day. Get back to work or begin a new chore so your time and mind are occupied. You can put it out into the Universe and see if it comes back to you.
9. Set Goals for Yourself
According to entrepreneur.com, setting long-term goals is always a wise idea for overcoming self-doubt. However, setting short-terms goals for yourself will help you pile up the successes, which in turn can build your self-confidence.
Your Fate is in Your Hands
No one knows what’s best for you better than you. When you learn how to overcome self-doubt, you’ll never feel the need to leave your fate in the hands of others or worry that you’re decisions may be flawed. You have your own best interests at heart, so you’re the best one to make the decisions that shape your life. Do it with confidence!