Why Is He Trying to Push You Away?

Most people have met someone that they really like, and they get excited making plans with them. When you meet someone that is amazing and you seem to have the best times together, life can seem almost perfect. But what happens if he starts pushing you away? It might leave you feeling confused, angry, or frustrated. You will probably wonder what went wrong.

Sometimes people will push you away because they’re afraid. Of course, not all of the signs mean that someone is scared and some of them can mean that the person isn’t really that into you.

If a person seems to be really interested in you and then all of a sudden, these signs start happening, they are probably leaving you based on being fearful.

Here are some reasons that they might be pushing you away because of fear:

• Meeting Your Connections

When you start getting deep with someone and then you want to take them to meet your family and friends, it can seem great for you. But if he is avoiding this or he is putting it off, he might be scared of getting too close.

This of course could mean that he isn’t really that into you and so he doesn’t want to meet your connections, or it could mean he’s scared of the feelings he has for you, and he would rather just push you away. When you love someone and you want to be with them, you want to show them to the people that you love.

If he is constantly blowing you off for this and he is making excuses as to why not to meet them then this is a big deal. This is the next step for being in a relationship with someone and the best thing to do is to give him a little bit of time to figure out what is going on and then if he doesn’t want to meet your people soon, then it might be time to move on.

• He Doesn’t Want to Hang Out

A guy that likes you and is into you will want to spend as much time with you as he can. If you want to hang out with him whenever you can and he keeps making excuses as to why he can’t, this might mean he’s just trying to push you away because he’s scared of his feelings for you.

He will figure this out if he likes you. If he tells you no a couple of times, give him a chance to tell you yes, the next time. Maybe take things slower and don’t keep asking him until he asks you.

If you and him were really getting along with each other and he seems like he wants to slow things down, slow down and learn to have fun on your own. You don’t have to have someone in your life to be happy. Then if he decides he misses you, let him come to you. Giving him some time to figure it out and some space might be a chance to make the relationship even better.

• He is Busy

Another thing that could happen is that he could always seem to be busy when you want to plan dates. It could be that he either isn’t into you and doesn’t want to spend time with you or it could be that he is really busy, and he doesn’t have a lot of time to date.

A man that likes you will let you know that he likes you but that he is really busy in his job. He will be kind and caring towards you and he will be honest as to why he can’t hang out with you. If he is really busy, then he will figure out a time to be with you.

One thing to ask yourself is if he has been different than he was in the past. Maybe there is a chance that he didn’t tell you what was going on. Now he might be working on something big, and this could keep him from having as much free time. If that’s what’s going on, don’t be upset but let him work and do his job. If he likes you, he will find a way to make the relationship work.

• Always on His Phone

Maybe you spend quite a bit of time with this guy, but it seems that every time you’re together he is disengaged from you. He might not be interested, or he might be shy and not know what to say to you.

If he is a person that seems to be shy, let him go at the relationship at his own pace. He might want to take things slower than you do and that’s okay. When a guy tells you that he needs time, you have to understand this even if it hurts your feelings. He might have a lot going on in his life and he might need to concentrate on those things for a while.

• No Future Talking

Talking about the future with someone that you’re dating isn’t a weird thing. If you are dating someone and they seem to get weird when you bring up your future together, he is either scared or he might not want to be tied down.

You should be able to talk about the future with the one that you love and the one that you’ve invested your time with. Some men are afraid of commitment, and they get worried about being trapped in their relationships. If he seems to be upset when you bring up the future, just let it go and give him some time. If he takes too much time, then tell him that you’re moving on without him.

• Doesn’t Want a Relationship

One thing that men sometimes do is they act like they’re interested in you but instead of moving forward with the relationship they decide that they aren’t interested in a relationship right now. If he tells you that he isn’t into that right now, then you need to find out if he is being serious or if he’s just scared of commitment.

If he does not want to commit and you are, you need to just move on and give him space to figure out his life. If he is just afraid of being committed then you might be able to get him out of his fear by showing him how great that you are. But if he continuously brings up that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship then move on and don’t hold him back.

• He Isn’t Very Specific

Being with someone that isn’t specific when you’re talking to them can be frustrating. It could also mean that he isn’t interested in you, and he doesn’t want to answer your questions or make you feel bad.

Asking him straight up questions and not getting an answer can mean that has either avoiding giving you an answer or that he’s scared of the questions you’re asking. He can be scared of a commitment to you, and he might avoid talking about it with you.

He might believe that if you know less about him then the less, he has to work to end the relationship if he isn’t happy. If he doesn’t want to be intimate with you and to have a close relationship, then he will probably push you away anyways.

Find someone that you can be close to that wants to talk to you and wants to answer your questions. Then you will know that they are interested in what you have to say.

• He Avoids Being Intimate

Having sex doesn’t mean that you’re always intimate. Intimacy means that you share things that are deep, and this makes people get closer to one another. If you’re trying to be intimate with him and he keeps avoiding, you then chances are he’s scared of getting close.

He might not even go as far as having sex because he is just afraid that he will get too close, and this might not be what he wants. In this situation you need to focus on what is going on in the relationship and see if you should walk away or stay.

• Lack of Affection

A guy that doesn’t show you a lot of affection or avoids being intimate with you might be afraid of getting close to you. If he doesn’t want to get close to you then he might not be affectionate at all, and this can mean that he doesn’t like you.

If he is one that has always shown affection and then out of nowhere, he doesn’t anymore then something has changed, and you need to get to the bottom of what that is. Unless you’ve done something that has made him shy away, he might just be afraid of being close.

• Arguing and Fights

Disagreeing on things is normal in a good relationship. But if you find that he wants to fight with you so that he can go and do his own things or that he tries to fight with you over small things then he might be trying to get you to break up with him.

If you have a reason to disagree with him and he is passionate about what he is arguing about, this can just mean that you don’t agree on everything. Sometimes people that are afraid of being committed to someone will fight with them to keep them from not getting too close.

Why Does Commitment Make Him Afraid?

Sometimes people are just afraid of being committed because they are scared of what could go wrong. Having a fear of commitment even when the relationship is going well might mean that you’re with the wrong person and you need to find someone else.

Pay attention to what he seems scared of and if he is someone that just doesn’t want to commit, you might not be the person for him. If he does commit and he gives up everything else he wants, then it could cause him to be bitter.

Some guys are afraid because they are afraid of being vulnerable. They might have past trauma that they had since childhood, and this might make them feel that people aren’t safe to get close to. When this happens, you need to get therapy to work through these things.

If he really cares about you and wants to be with you then he will get the help that he needs to figure things out.

Are You Going to Stay?

Are you going to stay with this person? And if so, you might not like how they act or how scared they are but if staying with this person even though they are trying to push you away makes you happy then do it.

There are a lot of women that will move on right away if they feel that they aren’t appreciated by their man. Why are you going to stay even if he keeps pushing you away? Chances are you will stay because you think that he might change and start treating you better or you might not want to be alone. Fear of loneliness might overtake fear of being mistreated.

If someone is treating, you badly then you need to leave because you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. There are many men out in the world that would treat you like the princess that you are.

So, if this guy that you’re seeing keeps pushing you away rather he is scared or he is rude, you need to do what is best for you. Do you want to be in this kind of relationship? Make sure that you look at what the future might hold and know that how he treats you now might get worse 5 or 10 years down the road.

What to Do?

Just because this article has some signs on how your man is acting doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like you. Maybe he has a hard time opening up or a hard time being in a relationship. You can give him time to see if he can get past that but if he can’t then you might need to just move on without him.

If he gets comfortable enough to open up to you then he will be showing you that he cares and that he wants to work on things. But if he isn’t willing to do this and if he isn’t meeting your needs then you shouldn’t give up your happiness to make him feel okay about where he is. Give him a little bit of time but if he doesn’t change then move on without him.