When it comes to finding love, we have a lot of questions.
Men and women both want to know what dating site they should be on to find love, and whether or not their profile will attract the kind of love they want. Many women want to know why they keep attracting men who can’t commit. These questions come in all shapes and sizes and are different for everyone.
But all of our questions come from the common place of not wanting to feel lonely. Looking for answers and desperately wanting to know that we’re not alone, we go over and over the story of why we think we don’t have love in our lives with our friends, co-workers and sometimes, anyone else who will listen.
What most of us don’t realize, probably because no one has taught us, is that every answer we need lies inside of us. And any time we look outside of ourselves for the answers we seek about love, we’re looking in the wrong place.
First, realize that you have identified your best qualities and maximized their powers. There is now more of you and your wonderful self than ever before. Acknowledge your success and ask a friend to acknowledge it with you, perhaps over a glass of something celebratory.
Long held resentments have been aired. Past defeats and disappointments have been re-sized and properly proportioned in the context of a long life. Your worst insecurities have been examined and their histories illuminated. You have made peace with your enemies and forgiven the tormentors. You’re strong and clear-headed. You have stepped up to your fears and studied them squarely and objectively. The formerly dirty laundry is clean, folded and put in its place.
You have transformed your physical self. The image reflected in the mirror is a happy one. This is who you are and you are wonderful. You can now feel the beauty of your body. A deep breath is an experience of fabulous sensations. As your relationship with your body develops, you become closer to nature.
Your spiritual self has also been awakened. Your religious beliefs have been identified, discarded and chosen. Every day, you are aware of the beauty of life. Your time on this earth is a celebration. You can now stand on the front lines and applaud every dawn.
How do you let the universe know that you are ready for love? Just glow. Your face and body posture is your billboard to the world. The beauty of your attitude is an invitation to a kindred soul. Your good works are offered as supporting evidence. Now is the time to step back, as you leap forward.
To prepare for the journey to partnership and let the world know you’re ready, you must pack your bag with the following sensibilities.
Step One: Practice Patience and Understanding
You are ready. But sometimes the rest of the world is not. You accept it with patience and understanding. You may be ready to say hello to your soulmate but he may need to finish his degree first, move out of his parent’s home or secure a job before he can smile back.You are ready.
Patience allows you to look deeper. Our society places a great importance on first impressions, but you know how unreliable first impressions really are. Patience will let you inquire and discover another person’s true characteristics. Patience allows you to listen.
To glow, or to radiate the goodness that is in you, requires that you take a step back. It demands that you let go of certain desires and accept what life presents to you. Does it really matter what hair color your soulmate has? Does he have to be a snowboarder? Is it mandatory that he be rich? Let that go.
This is not to say that you must abandon your goals. On some issues, you will want to act aggressively. In the matters of love, it is best to be patient and understanding. You cannot rush time. Every season has many days.
To glow requires a sense of self, a readiness to action and a predisposition of grace. You aspire to beauty. You choose goodwill. You prefer the clarity of light and understanding to the darkness of judgment and prejudice. Your actions reflect these beliefs. As you wait and observe patiently, be gracious with all who you encounter. This is the high road. Always walk with grace. Choose graciousness. People will notice your Glow.
Step Three: Be Confident
You don’t need to shout. Confidence is a very quiet emotion. Confidence is not a hope, but a belief. Take a deep breath and exhale slowly. Confidence is silent. When confidence becomes too loud, we are introduced to a braggart. Confidence can be seen. It is easy to identify. To be confident is to Glow. Step back, relax and radiate.
Step Four: Just Be You
All of your hard work is over. Now, relax. Just be who you are in this moment and . There is nothing left to do. No worries to make. No anxieties to distress. Just be. Like the brightest star or the most powerful lighthouse, your grace, confidence and compassion is a beacon. To glow is to tell the world that you are ready for love. Glow.