

Are you attracting the wrong people? Are you finding it difficult to maintain a good relationship, or self-sabotage the relationship each time? Have you met someone and felt they were “the one,” yet it turned out the opposite? Do you worry about being alone for the rest of your life? Are you ready to get clear on what you want, bring in the kind of relationship you deserve, and move on from those old patterns? When it comes to relationships, we attract partners based on our definition of what love is.
How Your Definition of Love Formed
Your definition of love was created by your early experiences with parents or caretakers—their relationships with each other and with you. Whether you experienced trauma and discord or love and harmony, your definition of love was subconsciously being formed during childhood. All your unconscious beliefs and emotional patterns stem from this.
You’re a Vibrational, Summoning Beacon
My Father
My father was a Chief Petty Officer in the Navy. He was deployed away from our family for six months at a time, on a battleship or a shoreline station. He didn’t want to be away—he loved us, he missed us, and he wanted to be home. During the early years of my life, we moved several times. I attended first grade in three schools that year, in two different states. Eventually my dad was assigned to a permanent position and we settled in one place. He was gone on base during the week and home on weekends.
A Back-and-Forth Pattern of Longing
As a child, what I knew and understood was that my dad was gone, home, gone again, and then back. My mother was essentially a single mom when he was away. My definition of love became a back-and-forth pattern of longing. I had a foundation of deep caring and love, but it came in and went out. It was stable and dependable, but not really.
Falling for the Wrong Ones
Unwinding Deep Patterns
How did I unwind deep patterns and insecurities, redefine my definition of what love is, and make substantial strides in healing? I found a counselor and mentor who was also a hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Progamming) and Reiki expert. I joined a study group for the book “Calling in The One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life” by Katherine Woodward Thomas. This workbook can also be used alone or working together with a friend. I knew my “life partner soul mate” was trying to come in. While in this class, I met my husband!
Magical Things Can Happen
As we identify what needs to change and create these changes, magical things begin to happen in our lives. The people, situations, and experiences we attract show up differently! We continue to have work to do, challenges to move through, and changes to adjust to along our journey, but the difference is our “life partner soul mate” shows up and walks along side of us as we continue to grow.