Time and again people have reported extreme unhappiness with their current relationships. They say they aren’t happy with the way things are going, and that their mate may be unfaithful and that try as they might, they can’t seem to get things improved. These people also don’t want to split from their partner because they don’t want to be alone.
This is not uncommon for men or women. Why is everyone so afraid of solitude? It is not unlike how a child feels when they are left alone, unable to care for themselves. A baby can’t change or feed themselves, so they feel panic.
When you are an adult, you can certainly take care of yourself, but if you have given much of your power to a partner, you can create a fear of being alone. If you have been taking full care of yourself, being in tune with what you want and need, you won’t fear being all alone.
Ask yourself, why do fear being alone?Is it because you miss being in control of someone? Do you have a history of manipulating others with tears or rage. Do you put up with an intolerable amount of abuse and mistreatment? Do you push this aside because any misery is better than being alone?
The truth behind this is that we are only truly alone is when we give up on ourselves. This is why we feel alone when we are in an unproductive relationship. In this type of relationship, when we are unable to make a connection, we feel even more lonely than if we were actually alone.
When you connect with yourself and your own guidance, you will never be alone. Being deeply in tune with yourself you need never fear loneliness.
When you connect and commit to becoming a better, loving adult, you can improve every facet of your life. If you are unsure of how to do this, you can consult a spiritual advisor or life coach.