Some Pain, Some Gain
Life is a series of decisions. From the mundane to the monumental, we have to make decisions every day. When it comes to relationships, the goal is to always make them better. The goal is to grow together and growth can be painful sometimes. But if you and your partner struggle together—if you make the tough, painful decisions together—your bond will grow stronger.
Some decisions are more painful than others. Let’s explore the decisions you may have to make in your relationship and why or how much they hurt.
Painful Decisions That Hurt a Little
Cutting back on spending: It’s a good idea to save your hard-earned money for the things you want down the road. Whether it’s a house, kids or a solid retirement fund, saving money when all you want to do is spend it, can be a bit painful. But if you and your partner have shared goals, you both need to sacrifice to make them happen. A little pain now is well worth achieving a certain level of comfort in the future.
Breaking a bad habit: Bad habits are hard to break. Let’s say your bad habit is smoking. Your partner knew you smoked when you met, and it was their least favorite thing about you. They wish you’d quit, so they ask you to. But asking is the easy part! You’re the one who has to stop smoking and quitting is very, very hard. But if you do quit smoking (or whatever your bad habit is), the rewards will outweigh the pain you feel while you’re quitting. You’ll feel better, look better, have more money in your pocket and your partner will kiss and hug you more.
Relocating for a Job: What if you were offered a dream job? Would you take it? Of course you would! But what would you do if this dream job required you to move to another state? Now you have to leave everyone you love and everything you know to take this next step. Moving for work isn’t an easy decision and it is often a painful one. But if it means taking the next step towards career success and if it means a better quality of life for you and your partner, this painful decision will definitely improve your relationship.
Giving up a pet: What do you do when the one you love doesn’t love your pet? Maybe they have a severe allergy or their living situation isn’t pet friendly. Maybe the cost of being a pet parent is too high. Will you give up your pet for love? It’s a huge sacrifice, but sometimes it’s one that needs to be made if your partner’s health and comfort are on the line.
Forgiving infidelity: This is probably one of the most painful decisions a person may have to make in a relationship.Can you forgive a cheating partner? Let’s hope you never have to make that decision, but if you have to, let’s be clear—it’s a very painful decision to make. But if your partner is filled with regret and willing to jump through hoops to earn your trust again, making the painful decision to forgive them could strengthen your relationship and even make it better than it was before their infidelity.
If you’re in a committed relationship, your goal should always be to make your relationship better—even when it comes to making really painful decisions.